Let’s Talk About Your Big But

One of my favorite moments from Pee Wee’s Big Adventure is when he’s talking to Simone about the reasons why she hasn’t done what she most desires to do.

As funny as this moment is, it’s actually a question that we really all need to ask ourselves. What is my “big but”? Why haven’t I done what I want to do?

To identify your big but, start by listing all of your most ambitious dreams. Don’t hesitate. What would you do if you could do anything? If you could own anything you wanted, what would you most want? Write down your loftiest and most ridiculous goals or dreams–especially if you haven’t yet shared them with anyone. Leave a few lines in between each dream you write down.

Now, if you’re inspired by minimalism like I am, I encourage you to remove the objects that you most desire from that list. Ultimately, they’re just going to weigh you down and create mental and financial debt (more on mental debt in a future post). If you feel like minimalism is ludicrous and a waste of time, then you might want to reconsider if you should really be reading this blog…

Anyways. Once you have your list of dreams, go back and fill in the reasons why you have not yet accomplished them. Be honest, but don’t beat yourself up about it. If your dream is to run a marathon, and the reason you haven’t done it yet is because your lazy, please write it down. There’s no judgement in this exercise (pun absolutely intended).

Now to end this on a positive note, go back through again and write down 1-3 steps you need to take to accomplish this goal. For example, if you want to run a marathon, BUT you’ve been too lazy, your steps would be:

  1. Find some inspiration–connect with an old or new running buddy and talk it through
  2. Create a plan or download one from the internet. I guarantee you this is not hard.
  3. Run. Set daily reminders and checkpoints to hold yourself accountable.

Dissect the goal into bite-sized pieces that you can more easily take in. Don’t overwhelm yourself. If you must, prioritize your goals and set the most easily achieved at the beginning of the list. Take a good, rational look at how to accomplish these goals, and stop letting your big but get in the way. 

What’s my big but?

My big but has been writing this blog. I took action first by determining what I wanted to write about. This took months! I have so many interests, that it was difficult to pinpoint my priorities. Then, I set it up and let my first post go live to the world. Then (I did this a bit out of order), I created an outline of subjects I wanted to cover. I still need to develop a better “mission statement,” but the fact that I am indeed moving forward with this project makes me feel ultra-fulfilled and excited about where I can take this in the future.

What’s your big but?


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