I know, I know. I’m not supposed to be on Pinterest while I’m planning my wedding. But, I actually have needed to use it for work recently, and I was reintroduced to one of my greatest pet peeves on the site. You know what I’m talking about. Those pictures of beautiful people and families and newlyweds embracing in a strange how-did-they-do-that kind of way and the user-provided caption below:
Love this pose.
What bothers me so much about this? It’s the idea that these pinners are trying to mentally and digitally catalog these poses for their future photo opportunities because they want to look just like that. They want their hands to make perfect hearts and for their babies to look so happy that viewers can practically hear her giggles.
But by focusing on creating the perfect pose, they’re already taking away from future candid photo ops. They’re planning out how happy and flawless they should make themselves look rather than truly focusing on the joy of the event being photographed.
Why are we really posing?
Let the world know you as you are, not as you think you should be, because sooner or later, if you are posing, you will forget the pose, and then where are you?
I actually had this idea brewing when Mike Burns from The Other Side of Complexity shared one of his older posts on Facebook titled “On Posing for Acceptance” While he wasn’t talking about the same style of posing, it made me think of what this means in an alternative context.
When we focus on poses, we’re putting ourselves in an unnatural state. Why do we do it? So that other people can look at us and view us as the ideal. It’s all about being seen instead of feeling or experiencing what’s going on around us (hence my general distaste for the concept of “selfies” as well).
Don’t get caught up in what the internet tells you. The internet will tell you to stand like this, walk like that, and while you’re at it change your hair color and get taller. Poses are not one-size-fits-all, and they certainly don’t look good on everyone. The only thing that looks good on everyone, unfailingly, is authenticity. (Especially if you’re a total goofball and make weird faces in every “serious” picture you try to take).
I’m not saying that you should never pause and smile for a camera. What I’m advising is that you stop collecting “poses” like they’re Pokemon (gotta catch em all) and start reveling in the moment.
Stop going through life by standing still in your favorite poses. Start moving forward, candidly and genuinely.
Don’t waste time looking for cameras.
What is your favorite photo of all time? Is it perfectly posed, or is it candid?