Why I’m Curating my Facebook Feed

One of the greatest challenges I’ve faced as I try to simplify and remove unwanted distractions from my life has been the removal of intangible distractions. I work full time and then some behind a computer screen, so it’s difficult not to get entirely caught up in the digital world.

But sometimes, you’ve got to outsmart yourself.

I’ve thought hard and often about deactivating my Facebook page, but can’t bring myself to do it. It’s such a great way to stay connected to friends and family who I would otherwise not regularly communicate with. I get to see pictures of my (newly inherited) nephews more regularly than I’m actually able to see them in person. I’m able to check in on my little brother in South Carolina without letting him know that I’m checking in (what could be less cool than a pestering older sister?)

But in order to do that, I have to wade through some…well, junk. And some not junk – I’ve started to unfollow people for some expected and unexpected reasons.

There’s a 90% chance I’m not following your updates.

And it’s not because I hate you or that I no longer want to be your friend. It’s because I want to still have the option of checking in on you without hearing from you every day. You’re probably a friendly connection I’ve made along the way and I still love having the opportunity of being in touch with you, but I don’t need to read details of your life every day. Here’s my criteria for unfollowing:

  • Mundane updates
  • Dramatic or cryptic updates
  • Automatic updates from applications. NO. I’ve learned to stay away from Candy Crush, and I don’t need that temptation again.
  • Selfies on selfies on selfies.

Here’s the one that takes people off guard: I unfollow people who have beautiful pictures of their incredible adventures (unless they’re my very best friends). I’ve started to realize that consistent exposure to other people’s lives has made me worry about my own. Am I going on enough adventures? Am I fun? Look at all those people having fun together, do I even have friends?

Yes, yes and yes. I just don’t tend to document it all as well as others do. But that’s okay.

Honestly, my next step is to delete my Facebook account entirely, since I mostly observe from the corner. But how can I stay in touch with my new nephews and my family? I might have to change a few things up if I want to start getting digital with my minimalism.

Have you deleted your Facebook? If so, have you implemented any alternatives?


11 thoughts on “Why I’m Curating my Facebook Feed

  1. Honestly I’m about where you’re at with Facebook. I just don’t see myself deactivating but have been trying to unfollow a Ton of people instead… I think it’s a good balance 🙂

    • So true! Balance is so important in everything, especially when it comes to things that can so easily be overdone like Facebook. Thanks for reading and commenting Laura!

  2. I haven’t and I won’t, but I’ve let people go. People who has opinions that I cannot support, people who’s only updates are negative, people who just write about competing with their dogs and how did they do on the last competition…. It’s not that I don’t like the people, I just don’t want to waste my life on their statuses.

    • You’ve hit the nail on the head – statuses are such a silly thing to get caught up on. *Especially* consistently negative statuses are hard to see. Thanks for reading and commenting!

  3. I agree, I don’t want to get rid of my Facebook account entirely but I am gradually try to minimise what I am exposed to. I went through my ‘Friends’ list a while ago and unfriended all the people I am only acquainted with and any people I no longer keep in touch with. I kept my close friends, family, and some people I would be happy to hear from in the future, who I might not hear much from at the moment. Only one person of probably close to 100 people tried to add me back, which just goes to show! Love your idea of minimising what you see in your News Feed too – I might try that next!

    • I went through my friend list and got rid of some too! Facebook really causes me a headache – it’s a great communication tool that can so easily take over.

      Thanks for reading!

  4. I stumbled across your blog and find your thoughts interesting, Ennaree. I’m not a millennial but I’ve been on a bent to simplify for quite awhile. I agree about FB; I feel I can’t leave it without disconnecting with people I’d been out of touch with for a long time, but I don’t need to know what most of them do every day. I’ve unfollowed a lot of “friends.” I can plug in their names when I want to see what they’ve been up to. I delete all game apps, and I also deleted the messenger app from my phone (the regular one may go next.)

    At some point we need to figure out just how plugged in we need to be!

    • I’m glad to hear from you Natine!

      I’ve deleted and re-added the app to my phone so many times since, I always have trouble deciding how plugged in I need to be, like you said. I still check my newsfeed more often than I should, but by unfollowing people there’s not usually too much going on. Fewer updates = less time. I’m happy you stopped by and left a comment! And of course, simplifying is for any age. It’s nice to be on this journey with like minded people for sure!

  5. What about just old school calling or mailing people, or actually getting together once in a while (even just once per year or half year)? Wasn’t part of your goal of minimalizing is to have more time to enjoy who and what you love; your passions and relationships?
    I’m right where you are though, I just temporarily deactivate it for a few weeks or a month when I need to focus on myself or deal with something. I started doing that a little over a year ago (around July) and it made me realize how nothing a lot of posts are (of other people as well as my own), so whenever I came back I automatically spent less time on it; posted less, liked less, unfollowed more etc. It’s amazing how much the amount of birthday posts from people I otherwise don’t really talk to dropped compared to the amount the years before I started doing that.

    • I’m hoping to start sending letters (or even emails to save on postage) and calling more once I move away for sure. It’s difficult to find the balance between real, human connection and the new social expectation of being “connected”

      I agree – once you start cutting things down, though, the pressure to post, like and follow quickly reduces. Thanks for stopping by and for commenting!

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